True Compassion

Good Day Folks!

Today I learned a lesson in compassion from a woman that I admire very much-my mother.

To make a long story short. Today my mother reached out to and lent her hand, and heart to my newly acquired step mom, along with my dad who seem to be going through a rough patch right now. My mom took it upon her self to reach out bless her with a few food items to help get them (my dad, step mom, and 4 children) through their rough patch. Not only did she reach out, but she had a long, much needed, tear-filled chat with her. She spoke about as two women, they need to be there for one another, and support each other, not only as women but because they are FAMILY. Talk about compassion. Talk about showing tenderness in world that is constantly shutting doors in people's faces.

My mother could have easily turned her cheek, and said "not my problem". But she didn't. She decided to be a blessing to someone.

Thanks for the lesson mom.

Mess of the Week

I had to post this.. I received this on email this morning.. Just Messy!
Tennessee man tells child support court he has 21 children

Desmond Hatchett says 21 children is enough for him. As if Octomom wasn't bad enough, a Tennessee man, 29 year old Desmond Hatchett has now fathered at least 21 children he can't support. Hatchett was in child support court again last week. His name appeared on the dockett 11 times in one day, representing 15 of his children. Hatchett says he wasn't out to set a record. He says he never intended to have this many children, "It just happened." He fathered the children by at least 11 different women and he claims all of the mothers knew about his large family. The children range in age from newborn to 11 years old. The question Knox County officials now face is how to support all these children. Hatchett works a minimum wage job and by law the state can only take 50% of his paycheck for child support. By the time that money is split 21 ways, some of the mothers get less than $2 per month. That leaves the taxpayers footing a large portion of the bill for these children. Even though Hatchett can't support the children he has, there is nothing the state can do to prevent him from having more. Hatchett reports that he had 4 children in one year, twice. He says he's done having children now, but only time will tell. He does say that he's a good father and knows the names, ages, and birthdates of all of his children. All of the blame can't be placed on Hatchett in this case. One has to wonder about the women who chose to have his children. In the end, the children and the taxpayers of Tennessee will pay for their choices for years to come.

Jon & Kate Plus 8

The Jon & Kate Plus 8 Saga continues...

I heart the tv show Jon & Kate plus 8. I have been a fan of the show since it first aired on tlc over four years ago. I've watched the sextuplets go from hospital to babies to big kids. I have also had the pleasure to watch the twins transform into cute little ladies. I have watched Jon work hard to provide for his family, and Kate run a house like no other. Now I am left with an uneasy feeling that this is going to end bad. Honestly, I'm sad. I am sad to see what has transpired between Jon & Kate. The rumors, the paparazzi, the fights.. it as all played out in front of me. It really breaks my heart to see, yet I can only wonder- What about the children?

Out on the Town

This past Saturday, my husband and I had the pleasure of dining at the Jazz Kitchen, a fun, hip bar and eatery that offers live music 6 days a week. We hung out at this fun little joint in Broad Ripple to celebrate the 1 year anniversary of my sister-friend and her beau. Hey T! We had a WONDERFULL time. The live entertainment was that of Goldie, a exciting, and talented singer. If you have a chance check her out.


Pics Below!

Monday Motivation

Good day folks! I bring you the first Monday Motivation.
Today was a crazy day for me. Let's just say it started with a case of the Monday's, then moved into a WHAT!! mode.. Then moved to a I can't wait to see this all fan out mode.

This morning I found out that the company I work for is re-organizing our office. This could mean a potential job loss or a great opportunity for me. Which one- I don't know. There are many changes that are going to be made, many doors that will open.
As I looked around at all of my co-workers today, I could sense the fear, the uncertainty, the anger. If you would have walked into my office this morning at 11:00 am you would have been severally disturbed. Several people were already talking about a severance, and sick pay, and vacation days- My company has not even announced which jobs may be changing. Hearing all of this made me sad. It made me wonder- Are these the same people that pray for me every night? Do they not know who holds tomorrow? Don't they know that God is in control?
In the face of this potential job loss, I felt a calm like never before. I know I will be fine. I know that my tomorrow, my next week, and my next month is ALREADY taken care of. God NEVER fails- and his favor and blessings STILL rain down into the hands of his believers. This change in my career may be what I need, to finally be able to do what I want. Like.. Become the next Sheila E..

`Peace

Friday Foolishness

Friday Foolishness
So.. I'm out to dinner with my mom and sister. Were at a casual dining establishment. Why Why Why?.. Does the hostess have cleavage down to her belly button? I mean seriously? That's a little much for a Friday at 5:30. What I want to know is why the manager seems to think this is ok? I mean really! That much cleavage is ok for.... Maybe someone going out to a party or a club. Cleavage is great for some people in some settings, but I don't want to see your boobies while I'm trying to enjoy my mini cheeseburgers and lemonade with my family. Just dang messy!
*Peace

Grey's Anatomy.. Bring the tissue!

Grey's Anatomy made me cry tonight. I am a huge fan of the show. My cousin Erica-a med student, got me hooked on the medical drama. If you've never seen the show- its bascially a hip ER with much more sex, fighting, and hotter doctors. I love the characters of the show.. I've been watching the show so long, that I can't imagine tv with it out.
I also love the show because it is written by a Black woman. Shond Rhimes is a beast, when it comes to the show. Go Girl! I'm so proud that 1) a woman and 2) a Black woman writes one of tv's top shows. She does a great job with storylines and has a crazy way keeping you on the edge of your seat.
The season 5 finale aired tonight-5/14/09 If you missed it check it out on abc.com.

Knock, Knock

Check this out, This young man speaks the TRUTH!
Enjoy!

Friday Foolishness

I'm a lounge/bar and a young lady walks in. I could she was young just by how she was dressed. She had on a one piece pantsuit with the sides and back cut completely out. Nothing is wrong with that but.. Yes there is a but. She looked rather nasty in my opinion. I could see pretty much everything. Yeah. EVERYTHING! She didn't leave that much to be desired.
It seems that some of the younger girls feel they need to show it all. And they do. Boobies, Butt, and anything else you could care to see.
This is bothers me because I have younger sister. I worry that she may feel that she needs to bare it all to be attractive. That is so not the case. To me it's not just about what you wear that makes you attractice. You can be just as beautiful in a sweater and jeans as you are in something revealing.-It's all about how you carry yourself. You don't have to show it all, or anything for that matter. My husband claims I look great in a raggedy tee and sweats, and he makes me feel beautiful in that same raggedy tee and sweats. I wouldn't have it any other way.
*out*

Pardon the Interupption... NOT

Some people are just plain rude. I know that is harsh, but recently that has become a truth for me. While dining out the other day with my husband and a group of friends, our dining experience was interrupted by several screaming infants/toddlers. The children in the restaurant were very loud and it began to disturb me and several other tables in the restaurant. The thing that upset me the most, was how the parents of each table never once got up and removed the child from the table nor did they try to quiet their children. I understand that dining out with children can sometimes be an issue, but these parents were just plain rude. If you know your child acts out- How about this.. Don't put take to restaurants where 95% of the dining population is adult or couples. That's just a thought.
In my experience (my family & my years as server in a family restaurant) when a child is disruptive in public they are removed the situation. Period. How embarrassing it is to have a child disrupting your dinner as well as several others. In my family you best be believe we were on our best behavior. There was no staying around and acting out. If you were bold enough to do that, then you must have been bold enough to accept a good scolding and a impending whipping... Maybe that was just my house.
When was it acceptable for children to ruin a casual dining experience? Why should I have to sit next to a screaming child that apparently only I can hear? That is why, whenever possible my husband and I choose to dine in the bar. It's quiet, children aren't allowed and the servers are pretty cool-most of them haven't been hardened by the spaghetti throwing champions or the I love Barney corral. I have nothing against families dining out, in fact I think its great the families are dining together. My issue is with the parents that seem to the think that their dining experience is the only one that matters. NEWSFLASH.. We Matter too! We like going out to eat, we like the atmosphere of a restaurant just as much as you do. So please, the next time you are dining out with small children think of how their actions will affect the other diners.

~OUT

BET's Sunday Best

Let me start by saying that, I am not the biggest fan of BET (that's a whole 'nother post) BUT.. Yes, there is a but.. I'm addicted to their hit show BET's Sunday Best. The show in it's second season is a gospel version of American Idol, but with MUCH better singers and wayyyyyy better judges( Bebe Winans & Mary Mary) and a hilarious host(Kirk Franklin). The hour long show airs Sunday night in the 9 pm time slot.
Tonight's episode was the final sing-off for the last 3. All of which were AWESOME! I don't know how the judges did it..Sadly, Latice was sent home, but I'm sure we will be hearing more from her. She was amazing. Honestly, the three women on that stage were three of the best un-signed singers I have EVER heard.

Good luck Y'anna & Jessica- I will be voting for the both of you.. I can't choose!

The Break-Up: Part Two

Whoever said breaking up is hard to do, hit the nail on the head.
Breaking up with someone in my opinion no matter how long you were together is one of the hardest things that you can go through. From the tears, the evil words that were spoke, to the giving back of gifts, to the awkwardness of seeing each other out in public afterwards, breaking up generally just sucks. I've been through more than my share of few breaks-ups, and out of all of them I can remember walking away from only one of them thinking "Wow that was easier than I thought." The whole do-da just stinks.
The entire process of a break-up is physically, and mentally draining on everyone involved, heck its even draining on the folks that are trying to be supportive of the two or three (in some cases) people trying get on with their lives. Speaking of which, oh the supportive friend, let me tell you from experience, that is a HARD job to fill. In my experience it's either on one side you want your friend or family member to be happy or you just want it all to just end nice and quick. In some cases you want both.
Whatever side you are on know this.. breaking up with someone can changed your life for the better or for the worse- it's up to you to decide on how.
~Peace

Friday Foolishness: Where is the love?

Happy Friday Yall!
I work in the grocery industry. I just happen to work for the one the largest grocery stores in the U.S. In my younger days..lol I used to be a server in a rather well know resturant, so let's just say I'm an un-offical expert in GREAT Customer Service.
What happen to sales clerks speaking when you came into a store? Or what happen to a server re-filling your drink before your glass was half full? What happen to a thank you?
Sadly, due to the changes in the work force, some people are just doing what they can to keep food in their bellies, and clothes on their butts-I am all for that.
BUT.. Yes, there is a but. In my world, if your going to do a job-do it well dang it. I know that times are rough, but please don't get an attitude while at work and you work in the service industry-that just doesn't make sense. Trust me, I will go to your manager... Call it tattling, Call it being a B***H, so what. If I come/call your place of business, I expect to be treated nicely, I expect my clothes to get folded, before they are placed in the bag, and I for dang sure expect you to speak to me. Nothing gets under my skin more, than rude service workers. Why are you so angry? What did we (the public) do to make your job so freaking hard? Oh I know what we did- we expected you to treat us how you want to be treated. But instead, weve probably came/ called your place of employment with an made about somthing, had an attitude
(just like you), then we were on our cell phone, and the kicker, we didn't even say thank you when we were done. So, I ask you today, where is the love?